Hampton Roads Academy (HRA) mourns the passing of one of its most devoted alumni and Board of Trustees members, Thaddeus “Thad” Rubel Shelly III, a member of the Class of 1971. Thad Shelly passed away on September 8, 2024, at the age of 71, after a valiant six-year battle with cancer. Surrounded by family on a beautiful Sunday afternoon, his departure marks the loss of a cherished leader, mentor and lifelong supporter of HRA.
A Deep Connection to HRA
Thad Shelly’s connection to HRA ran deep. Throughout his life, he maintained an unwavering passion for education, leadership and athletics. As an active trustee and alumnus, Thad was instrumental in advocating for the school, especially in the revitalization of Navigator football. Whether cheering from the sidelines or working behind the scenes, his love for HRA’s athletic programs was evident in all he did. In recognition of his steadfast dedication to sports, Thad was recently inducted into the HRA Athletic Hall of Fame, an honor that stands as a tribute to his lifelong commitment to HRA’s student-athletes and athletic legacy. His contributions, both on and off the field, will continue to inspire future generations.
Thad’s Early Life and Education
Born on August 29, 1953, in Memphis, Tennessee, Thad Shelly was the son of Beverly Agnew Haskins and the late Thaddeus Rubel Shelly Jr. His family later moved to Newport News, Virginia, where his journey with Hampton Roads Academy began. After graduating from HRA in 1971, Thad went on to Hampden-Sydney College, earning his BA in Economics in 1975. His passion for education continued as he pursued an MBA in Finance from the Mason School of Business at The College of William & Mary in 1984, thanks to the encouragement of his wife, Helen Totty Edwards.
A Remarkable Career in Wealth Management
Thad Shelly’s career in wealth management was nothing short of remarkable. After obtaining his MBA, he embarked on a journey that saw him take on leadership roles at prestigious institutions like Goldman Sachs, Legg Mason, Bessemer Trust, Lazard and Tiedemann Advisors. His expertise in finance earned him a distinguished reputation in the industry, but no matter where his career took him, Thad’s heart remained with HRA.
Leadership and Mentorship
Throughout his life, Thad Shelly exemplified the qualities of leadership and mentorship. Beyond his professional accomplishments, he dedicated countless hours to various advisory boards, including those at Hampton Roads Academy, The College of William & Mary Business School, Johns Hopkins University Heart and Vascular Institute and Hampden-Sydney College. Thad’s leadership wasn’t limited to boardrooms and classrooms—he also served as a coach, guiding teams at the college, high school and youth levels, including his own sons’ football teams in Severna Park, Maryland. Through coaching, Thad imparted lessons of teamwork, discipline and perseverance, helping countless young athletes reach their potential.
A Family Man
Despite his professional success and leadership roles, Thad Shelly was a family man at heart. In June of 1982, Thad married Totty, and together they built a beautiful life filled with love and shared experiences. Their life took them to various locations along the East Coast, including Pennsylvania, Maryland, New York and Florida, but their favorite place was their home on the Rappahannock River in Deltaville, Virginia. Summers spent on the water with family and friends were among Thad’s most cherished moments. Whether boating, playing golf, or simply enjoying a cigar on the porch, Thad treasured these times of relaxation and connection with loved ones.
A Lasting Legacy
Thad Shelly’s dedication to HRA, his family and his community was matched only by his dedication to excellence in all aspects of his life. His recent induction into the HRA Athletic Hall of Fame was a fitting recognition of his many contributions to the school’s athletic programs. But his legacy goes far beyond accolades and titles. Thad’s unwavering support for Hampton Roads Academy, his tireless efforts to foster leadership and education and his boundless enthusiasm for the school’s sports programs will leave a lasting impact on HRA’s community.
Honoring Thad’s Influence
As we reflect on Thad Shelly’s life, we honor the incredible legacy he leaves behind. His influence on Hampton Roads Academy extends beyond his years of service on the Board of Trustees. His passion for education, leadership and mentorship will continue to shape the future of the school, inspiring generations of students and athletes for years to come.
Our Deepest Sympathies
Our deepest sympathies go out to Thad Shelly’s family during this difficult time, especially his beloved wife, Totty. Thad’s absence will be deeply felt, but his spirit, love for HRA and dedication to others will forever remain a part of the Academy’s history. We are incredibly grateful for all that Thad Shelly gave to Hampton Roads Academy, and his memory will be cherished by all who knew him.
A Life of Service and Love
Thad Shelly’s life was one of service, leadership and love—a life that touched countless people both within and beyond the HRA community. Though we have lost a great leader, mentor and friend, his legacy will endure, continuing to inspire those who follow in his footsteps.
